Generation GAP

 Sometimes i wonder if this is due to generation GAP or just purely lazy. i remember when i first left Kuching for HK, i was timid, innocent and lost but no matter what, i knew i had to fight for myself in order to protect myself or get what i want. this philosophy was introduced to me when i moved to HK. i took my parents to Langham place for lunch. As you know, queuing is unavoidable in HK for everything. So i got a waiting number for ourselves and waited quietly for our turn. During the boring wait, i saw an incident where a lady came out of nowhere and showed the waitress her waiting ticket. The waitress told her nicely that her number has passed and she needed to get another number and wait again. The lady got upset and scolded the waitress and the waitress let her in. I WAS SHOCKED.. and i did not know we could do this! so from them on, i always reasoned with the person to get what i want. i have to say, i was more brave while i was in HK and Shanghai.. but i got less and less brave after moving to Singapore. hahaha.. don't ask me why.. 

yesterday, i was having pet talk with my new senior. A shy Malaysian guy. He joined us for 4 months already but i havent not seen anything wonderful from him, so i scheduled a meeting with him to ask him how he was doing etc.. all those rubbish...my intention was to "hiam" him because i hired him to lead, not to be LED!!! i waited for him to talk, drive the conversation.. in the end, i got impatience, so i asked him a lot of questions which he couldn't answer and was not confident to answer. So i told him all of my expectations and asked him for his action plan and timeline. in the end, he smiled and told me this is the most constructive conversation he had after joining and that my expectations are high.

i told him that the manager position is open, as a normal person, one should fight for it. he told me he doesnt want it as he thinks he is not qualified. to be honest, i was a bit shocked coz before he joined us, he was a manager at one of the big 4 firms >_<  i remember, at his aged, i was already a senior manager ler.. and i moved to Shanghai at that age to do something i completely didnt know... and i did not think i was not qualified (even though i really did not know how to be a controller at that time). Perhaps i was in my own world.. but come to think of it... it was perhaps good that i did not think i was not qualified.. i just thought i should grab the chance because once it's gone, it's gone... and same for this guy... he doesn't think he is ready for the manager position.. then he has to stay in his current position for the next 3 to 5 years.. who knows.. unless the new manager i found is so crappy that he/she leaves in a short time or cannot stand my "high" expectations. hahaha..

i'm just thinking.. is this a generation gap where everyone just wants to take it easy or is it because my expectations are really high?!